Ruchika- The past, present and future….

I’m not going to talk about what happened to her.. if you do not know, then better get out of the country… Because every single person must have seen the smile of Rathore’s face when he walked out of the court getting a bail.
Ruchika, the mere sound of the word gets me to bubble with anger and frustration. I am a person who HATES violence against women and kids. I’m sorry if I am being biased to the “SO-CALLED- SUPEROIR- GENDER”. This is not to affect the feelings of anyone but I need to voice out my opinion. Why does this outrageous thing happen to every single girl. Yes, Every single girl.
Nobody might know but the above fact is true. Your sister, cousin, aunty,friend, your own girl friend or any women for that matter would have gone through some kind of harassment including me. I was terrified when it happened to me, never told a single soul until now. Most of them do not tell this out. I once had friend who tried to hang herself after some pervert harassed her. You still wont believe that the fear in her eyes never went away. She is too scared of all men now.. She trembles every time, she is reminded about it. This not only happened here in India but also in other countries. I really don’t understand how can some be such perverts. You would not believe that statistics say that educated men consist of 70% in this population. Unbelievable isn’t it…. No, not for me.
I’m sorry for being rude to all the fellow MEN, but I have never trusted any one after it happen to me by my own so-called- best friend. When I confronted him about it, he apologies and says that he wasn’t planning it but it happened at that moment. AT THE MOMENT… my foot. I kicked him out of my house, asking him never to show his face in my life again. Damn you. Go to hell.. Who do you think we are sex machine or dolls?? The guy, who harassed my friend, who saw her walking with a IPOD, stopped his bike and turned around to do such a thing. He was fully dressed as an executive. She was devastated. You guys wouldn’t understand how this would make the girl feel, do you? She was unable to bear the pain which lead her to commit suicide. Now she is another Ruchika. I fight for her and will keep writing about until justice is provided to us, poor souls. I blame the god-damn country and culture for such kind of acts. Every girl is a Ruchika.. its just that no one is willing to talk about it. Even I wasn’t willing to talk about this until now.
I loathe every men in this world who acts like such idiots. I know some of them don’t plan it but isn’t it all about self control and discipline. Then why the hell do they put you in a co-ed school or college? To learn about these things and to understand the gender differences between each other. It is even disgusting to think of such a thing. And the worst part of all this, KIDS are also not spared. OMG, where are we heading at? At this rate, I guess its better that the world ends. I don’t want to live in such a filthy, dirty minded world with all this crap. This is basic common ethics or humanity- not to harm others. Com’on men wake!!! I beg you. After all, we are also worth living. Please for the sake of your mothers, daughters, aunts, friends, and every women. Please don't do such a goddamn thing.

PS: This post is to squash and ponder every men who even has the slightest feeling of molesting any women or kid… You guys totally suck.. You re worth nothing but a pile of shit… I don't care even if I was rude. I had to raise my opinion on such perverts. Watch the movie The Lovely bones to understand feeling of the deceased!!! and please sign this petition for Ruchika http://www.PetitionOnline.com/7018/petition.html

Ini Oru Vidhi Seivom

Vijay Tv is hosting this new show called " Ini Oru Vidhi Seivom". This show talks about Women rights and what are all the things which are faced by women today(Both good as well as bad).



Today's topic was about you can prevent Divorce rates or something of that sort( I started watching it from the middle...Sorry).
This started off by saying how the women are trying to put up a lot of ego problems and don't have any sagipu thanmai. and one annoying lady also said that we, girls, these days are not brought up to share and adjust to things. We put our egos in front of us before we think about the marriage.
Another lady who was offended by this statement quoted that she personally knew a girl who was married to this guy who was impotent( meaning not being able to reproduce) knew that he was before he got married. When she lived with for almost 2 years and then told her parents about him who was also sexually abusive. She tolerated all this just for the sake of not getting a divorce and trying to live along with him, but there was a limit to everything because he had become more aggressive one day. So she left him even though the parents were reluctant. But now she got the divorce and became a doctor who is quite successful in her career, but doesn't want to marry again.


I was so touched by this story. Do you know there are 1000 of women who have such kind of husbands who are impotent and another set of women who are sexually harassed or abused by their husbands. If they try to get out of this situation and get divorced, the society says that she has got ego and doesn't want to tolerate and live. How can any women live like that? Even though, we are being so successful in fulfilling the dreams of the nation and building the economy and developing, still women are not given the rights that they deserve. I personally know a friend, who had similar kind of situation which she also came out of it, but she also tried to make the marriage work because he always was loving to her except for the fact he was being aggressive and abusive as time went by. The family did not accept her back. She still lives and proves that she is worthy of living and she has overcome the depression and on her feet to live her life the way she wants it to be. I salute to these kind of women. This is not called as ego or self esteem or selfishness. This is called as protecting ourselves and living our life. These women do not want to get married again for the mere fact that they do not want to get hurt again because the pain and agony was too much to tolerate

Sexual Harassement-what can we do about it?

Today I was walking on the main road which is always busy. Before me, there were two teenaged girls walking back home from the bus stop. While walking, a guy on the cycle was  going past us. He went a little further and stopped the cycle to see who was coming behind. These girls hadn't noticed because they were having their own chit chat while walking. This guy waited for us to walk near him so that he could catch hold of one of the girl's private parts. I was shocked and that spilt second he peddled away. I tried to stop him but he was too fast. I came back to the girl who was harassed and she was too embrassed because everybody were just watching what was happening and never bothered to help me. She cried out and I tried to console her and helped her up. I also said that I will accompany both of them to their house which was nearby my place. She cried all the way home. It was an awful sight. She couldn't take out her hands from her chest. I was scared whether this will take her to depression. I took her home and told her  mother what happened and asked them to take care of her. I just cannot understand how perverse some guys are. And nobody came to help. Such cheap characters some of them have. Everybody can become multimillionaires, own a car and whatever but these are such basic common duties being a human. 

I somehow, feel the world is one-sided. Why this kind of nasty behaviour ? This is definitely going to affect the girl for somedays. How can a person just do that? Is this what the world is leading? Is this women empowerment? Can't a girl just live the way she wants to live? It just irritates me to say that it is getting on my nervous on what I am hearing about all the behavioural changes undergoing on the men these days. Please don't treat us like sex dolls. We have a life and we have feelings too. Please understand that the world does not belong only to you, Men.

Its just shocking. I cannot get this out of my mind.