He was….

 

 

He loved me… once

ONCE all my heart needed and wanted and craved. I felt solitude in the fact that his heart once belonged to me… even for just a fleeting moment- I knew it was mine.

He was always the fickle type – he never let me know too much but always fed me just enough to keep me close to him, clinging onto him, just enough to keep me wanting more of him.

I hate him for this. I hated him…

I hate him for all that he was… but nothing that he is. I don’t know him anymore.

Nothing that I am… Nothing that I am without anything of him….

Talking about divorce…

 

The hottest topic of the day being love and love marriages. I was quite curious to find out how many people in my class are really into love and love marriages since we were discussing about it. As usual the guys were all joking about it by saying that they would get married to a girl and then divorce her within in the next three months and then get going with another girl. Then this thing struck me, let me check about the divorce rates in India.Here is something I felt about it.

Marriages in different parts of the world are done differently.In olden days, tribal men kidnap girls from other tribes to marry them. In the western world, as we know it, they have the right to “choose” the person they prefer on the basis of love. In India, a common practices was arranged marriage. It is said that the divorce rate have a direct impact on the level of choosing their own spouse.i.e. Love marriages. And according the research, it is happened only in the recent times.

If you see the picture below, you will find that India, compared to all the other countries has the lowest divorce rate but is increasing certainly at a very high speed during the past decade.

Even though India still enjoys a low divorce rate, the rapid increase in the number of divorce petitions being filed in Indian courts is certainly a matter of concern. The Indian divorce rate is although the lowest in compared to the rest of the countries of the world, but the present marital scenario in India is likely under a threat. The very will to keep on with the sacred union even under numerous marital disputes and disparities has mellowed with time and transformation of ideologies.

And if you trace out the reasons for these divorces, you will find that the blame has been placed on the women empowerment, the literacy rate and the financial independency.

• Lets look at the reasons for the increasing rate of divorces in India:
• 1. Earlier when the women divorced she was faced with social criticisms. They believed that the parents would not accept them and think of them as a burden. But times are changing now. The parents feel and understood the fact that it is not the end of the daughter’s life if she was divorced.
• 2. Due to factors such as Globalization and IT boom, the social life has become faster. The couples aren’t spending enough times with each other and also in this fast paced world nobody is bothered about social ill- effects or rather not effect the glare of the society.
• 3. With the advent of women education, they are not anymore depend on the men for their financial needs. Therefore, she doesn’t have to anymore stand the abuse and harass made by the men. She can get out of it and get on with her life on her own or as well as the kids, if any.

• But are these the only reason why we are moving into the different
• pace, and don’t you think that the above mentioned reasons are fair
• enough and logical for the betterment of the better half, WOMEN.
• PS: I am not being bias here. I still believe that there are some real men who take care of their wives as if they were Queen and Hats off to you all.. This post is dedicated to my dad because he belongs to that category.

Ending life

Its hard to get away from life, easier to end life rather than face the agony, pain, sorrow or shame. Yes, all of us have to go through pain or sorrow @ some point of our life even the TATAs and BIRLAs have to face it. These are just a mile stone for us to grow using this. All failures are stepping stones to success. Someone, somewhere, knew that life isn’t about dying!!

I got a call from an old friend today!! She was crying when I picked up the call. I asked her what was the problem? She said that the guy she loved for more than 3 years has rejected her and married a rich girl. She was ashamed to face her parents since she was stubborn about marrying him all these years. She has been crying for the past one month, not going to office regularly or eating properly. All she could think about was DYING. She told me that she wanted to talk to me about this before she died. Little did she realize that I could get her out of it by the time the call was over. I thanked god for once for giving me the power of convincing her. It took me about 3 hours of talking. It was unbelievable how Love can change us. She was scared about the relationship which she had with him. They were intimate and sexually involved. I had to tell her that this was the end of everything. She was scared about her future and what would the husband think about her.. Obviously, all these thoughts clouded her like hell. Pavam. I pity her.. She was such a sensible person. So responsible about what she wanted to do in life yet when it came to love, she chose the wrong guy. I had to convince her that life has to go on. I made her promise that she wouldn’t try anything stupid again. I hope it doesn’t occur in her minds again.
In India, more than 1,00,000 people die due to suicide in a year which is a very sad thing.  Love, family pressure, loneliness, health issues, failures, loss, exams et all are some of the reason for people to suicide. Sneha, this is an NGO which is a suicide prevention helpline. It helps people to get out of these feeling of ending life. If these depressed people talk about their situation, they have 70% chance of getting out of the emotion. I volunteered once and I got a girl from a girl who was in her first year of college and she was devastated because some A** Hole harassed her sexually while travelling to a nearby place. Since that area was quite and no one around, he took advantage of her. Thank god, she dint get raped but she was very upset about it and this was killing her. No one to talk to. She could tell it to anyone. I cried while talking to her, so I gave the call to one of the seniors who handled her call and convinced her not to do anything stupid. When I still think about it, I start to get tears from my eyes. Its so bad, don’t you think. You can also volunteer to help bring life to another human. I did and I got the sense of satisfaction that none other activity in my life would give.
You can contact them through the website Sneha, or call up the number 044-2460050. Help bring back life.They are open 24hrs a day.

Mood of the Day :)

Friendship can be a burden sometimes!!!

Being in an MBA program, we have to do a lot of work. Assignments, case studies, presentation ( both groups as well as individual), homework, classwork, JAM etc.. You name it and we have it.. Something like that.They call this Management Stress. This is the kind of stress which we are practising to undergo before we step into the real "Corporate World." So many talks and others things doesn't bother me.. Until a friend says," Raji, please do that assignment for me too."

Sometimes, its okay when they have a genuine reason but many of them don't. Sometimes, I feel that I'm being used by most of them in my gang. Friends of course.. We are all close and we are here to help each other become better than what we are now but not at the cost of other people's work. I feel that this adds on more pressure to my education. I'm a person who would never say "NO" for an answer. I'll always say, "If I finish my work and if I have the time,I'll help you with it." It bugs me.. To the extent that I may even get angry..

Anger is not the solution for any problem. I mean if they do their work, its for their own benefit. If some work is given and it should be completed by the respective person, so that they can gain knowledge. So what, if it goes wrong?? It never goes right always. So what if you don't get marks?? Doesn't matter.. Atleast you are learning from your mistakes and your own way. If I 'm that intelligent then why the hell don't you guys take me in for a business partnership which you are planning to start up now. I just feel fed up and irritated. I'm just a friend who has fun and a friend who does all the work so that you get credit and better marks than me. I don't give a damn about marks but I give a damn about the appreciation. Atleast a thank you would do. Or a chocolate which would mean, "Raji, Thank you da." That the gratitude I would expect from anyone. One thing is for sure, I'm planning to do work to get bigger and better and do work on my own and give the most best possible outcome from my side so that I can worthy than anyone else. I'm not putting the blame on anyone particularly because I know a few of my friends discuss a lot  about my posts these days. This is my humble request to anyone out there.. Give your gratitude to the person concern. Afterall, a help is a help, be it small or big.

WOW!!! Someone is getting angry these days...