Talking about divorce…

 

The hottest topic of the day being love and love marriages. I was quite curious to find out how many people in my class are really into love and love marriages since we were discussing about it. As usual the guys were all joking about it by saying that they would get married to a girl and then divorce her within in the next three months and then get going with another girl. Then this thing struck me, let me check about the divorce rates in India.Here is something I felt about it.

Marriages in different parts of the world are done differently.In olden days, tribal men kidnap girls from other tribes to marry them. In the western world, as we know it, they have the right to “choose” the person they prefer on the basis of love. In India, a common practices was arranged marriage. It is said that the divorce rate have a direct impact on the level of choosing their own spouse.i.e. Love marriages. And according the research, it is happened only in the recent times.

If you see the picture below, you will find that India, compared to all the other countries has the lowest divorce rate but is increasing certainly at a very high speed during the past decade.

Even though India still enjoys a low divorce rate, the rapid increase in the number of divorce petitions being filed in Indian courts is certainly a matter of concern. The Indian divorce rate is although the lowest in compared to the rest of the countries of the world, but the present marital scenario in India is likely under a threat. The very will to keep on with the sacred union even under numerous marital disputes and disparities has mellowed with time and transformation of ideologies.

And if you trace out the reasons for these divorces, you will find that the blame has been placed on the women empowerment, the literacy rate and the financial independency.

• Lets look at the reasons for the increasing rate of divorces in India:
• 1. Earlier when the women divorced she was faced with social criticisms. They believed that the parents would not accept them and think of them as a burden. But times are changing now. The parents feel and understood the fact that it is not the end of the daughter’s life if she was divorced.
• 2. Due to factors such as Globalization and IT boom, the social life has become faster. The couples aren’t spending enough times with each other and also in this fast paced world nobody is bothered about social ill- effects or rather not effect the glare of the society.
• 3. With the advent of women education, they are not anymore depend on the men for their financial needs. Therefore, she doesn’t have to anymore stand the abuse and harass made by the men. She can get out of it and get on with her life on her own or as well as the kids, if any.

• But are these the only reason why we are moving into the different
• pace, and don’t you think that the above mentioned reasons are fair
• enough and logical for the betterment of the better half, WOMEN.
• PS: I am not being bias here. I still believe that there are some real men who take care of their wives as if they were Queen and Hats off to you all.. This post is dedicated to my dad because he belongs to that category.

Thiru Thiru Thuru Thuru

A cute title and I'm looking forward to this movie from a young women Director.

Small Info about this movie:

SATYAM CINEMAS and REAL IMAGE MEDIA TECHNOLOGIES together present a fun romantic comedy THIRU THIRU THURU THURU (T4), starring AJMAL and RUPA along with MOULI.

The movie is directed by NANDHINI JS, who is a gold medallist from FTIT and winner of State award for best director for her short film OTTAM.

The film has been shot by cinematographer SUDHIR K.CHAUDHARY, again a gold medallist from FTIT and associate of ace cinematographer ASHOK MEHTA (I.S.C) .

The Music of the film has been composed by MANI SHARMA, who needs no introduction and the film has four peppy numbers and a theme track.

MS SURIYA who worked in Kannaamoochi Enada and working on Aanandham Aarambham is the editor for TTTT.

Art Director DRK KIRAN has given simple but amazing setups for the scenes and the songs.

SARAVANARAJAN has choreographed the dance numbers for three main songs and SHANTI for one special song.

LALITHANAND has written beautiful lyrics for three songs and the main theme... YUGABHARATHY has written one special song...

T4 has been shot on Red One camera, and will be post produced in 4 K resolution. T4 will be the FIRST INDIAN END-TO-END DIGITAL FILM.

G. BALAJI has provided his services as the D.A.M (Digital Asset Manager) and Red Technician and the film has been digitally color graded on Digital Visions Film Master by A. VENKATAKRISHNA.

T4, now in post production is slated to release this September and promises to take the audience on Roller Coaster of Fun and Romance.

Ini Oru Vidhi Seivom

Vijay Tv is hosting this new show called " Ini Oru Vidhi Seivom". This show talks about Women rights and what are all the things which are faced by women today(Both good as well as bad).



Today's topic was about you can prevent Divorce rates or something of that sort( I started watching it from the middle...Sorry).
This started off by saying how the women are trying to put up a lot of ego problems and don't have any sagipu thanmai. and one annoying lady also said that we, girls, these days are not brought up to share and adjust to things. We put our egos in front of us before we think about the marriage.
Another lady who was offended by this statement quoted that she personally knew a girl who was married to this guy who was impotent( meaning not being able to reproduce) knew that he was before he got married. When she lived with for almost 2 years and then told her parents about him who was also sexually abusive. She tolerated all this just for the sake of not getting a divorce and trying to live along with him, but there was a limit to everything because he had become more aggressive one day. So she left him even though the parents were reluctant. But now she got the divorce and became a doctor who is quite successful in her career, but doesn't want to marry again.


I was so touched by this story. Do you know there are 1000 of women who have such kind of husbands who are impotent and another set of women who are sexually harassed or abused by their husbands. If they try to get out of this situation and get divorced, the society says that she has got ego and doesn't want to tolerate and live. How can any women live like that? Even though, we are being so successful in fulfilling the dreams of the nation and building the economy and developing, still women are not given the rights that they deserve. I personally know a friend, who had similar kind of situation which she also came out of it, but she also tried to make the marriage work because he always was loving to her except for the fact he was being aggressive and abusive as time went by. The family did not accept her back. She still lives and proves that she is worthy of living and she has overcome the depression and on her feet to live her life the way she wants it to be. I salute to these kind of women. This is not called as ego or self esteem or selfishness. This is called as protecting ourselves and living our life. These women do not want to get married again for the mere fact that they do not want to get hurt again because the pain and agony was too much to tolerate

Happy women's day!!!

A Woman plays various parts in her life. Eventhough, we dont realise the value of women atleast give her the respect of being one. Nobody can live without her( some may disagree with me). This to all the women who should be treated and respected as one. Don't see her only as a glam doll but also look into her heart knowing that she is a human person and NEVER treat her like a property. To Those Who Know How To Respect Her. Happy Women's day(March 8th)

And BEST of all you can feel her as your mother.